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“Allowing yourself to want things is a great freedom. Allowing ourselves to want things, as women, as people who’ve been not only not allowed to want things but treated as things ourselves…yeah. And allowing ourselves to want that connection, whether it’s a night of hot and sweaty sex on the kitchen counter and then goodbye, goodbye, goodbye or whether it’s a life that sometimes just comes down to snuggling on the couch watching 80s movies, it’s what we want.“
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I like this, it resonates with me today. And god did it take me a long-ass time to have any clue how to articulate my wants or needs. I’m still working on it and suspect I always will be to some extent. I think this is a struggle for women and men. But I do think it’s a particularly female struggle because often men are taught at an early age to articulate their desires in a way women are not. It takes a lot of work to undo all those years of learning to stuff your desires. Let me tell you.